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Monday Feb 11, 2019
Monday Feb 11, 2019
Sam and Erica's Marriage podcast
Romance in Your Marriage Part 2 of 4: Romance - Fanning the Flames
Episode 006
February 11, 2019
Introduction
- Welcome
- Go ahead and subscribe...it’s free!
- Part 2 of our 4 part series on Romance In Your Marriage
Discussion
Fanning the flames
When we notice the fire going out or dying down we we have take action to get those embers going again.
We have to be intentional (my word for 2019) if we want to see change.
The Drift
- Life gets in the way
- Unintentional
- Past hurts and unforgiveness can stop a relationship from growing
- We understand that where there is hurt, resentment or unforgiveness that needs to be dealt with. We suggest you get counseling. We know it’s hard to just put a “date-aid” on a old wound and expect everything to be ok. One small “bump” and the pain will come right back. Seek professional help, it’s worth it!!
- Work, kids, ministry, family can be a diversion from what’s going on in marriage
- Can be a comfort zone
Meeting the needs of my spouse (Questionnaire)
- What are my emotional needs?
- Be honest when filling out the survey. Your spouse can’t meet those needs if you are not honest with the answers.
- What are my spouse’s emotional needs?
Generalizations
- Her first need is Affection
- Hold her hand
- Cuddle for the sake of cuddling.
- She’s not clingy she has a need.
- She may not even be aware that this is a need until it’s not being met.
- When you dated or early in the marriage these things were automatic.
- His first need is Sexual Fulfillment
- Her second need is Intimate Conversation
- She wants your undivided attention.
- She needs to know that she’s important to you and what she has to say matters.
- His second need is Recreational Companionship
- Sam & Erica call it “hanging out”
Meeting these needs make you irresistible to your spouse
- Realization on whether I’m meeting those needs or not
- Love bank/ Love tank.
- When we are meeting the emotional needs of our spouse we are making deposits into his or her account.
- When we aren’t meeting those needs just the opposite is happening. We are draining our spouse and they begin to feel unloved and will retaliate in a way that hurts the relationship.
- Am I willing to meet those needs?
- Meeting those needs has to be intentional
- Realization on whether I’m meeting those needs or not
- Proverbs 5:18-19 Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a living hind and graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.
- Ladies, I read in a book that our husbands should be so satisfied that’s it’s like if they were so stuffed with their favorite meal and were offered dessert they would turn it down.
- It can even work even if your spouse is unaware
Burning hotter then it has in the past
- If you know your spouse’s emotional need / love language you are better equipped to show love to them in a way they need it most.
There are blessings in meeting the needs of my spouse
- Builds a deeper level of intimacy
- Opens up the possibilities in the relationship
- Creates oneness.
ACTION ITEMS
- This time we want you to go out on a date. It’s Valentine’s Day this week. Enjoy each other. Try working in meeting the emotional needs of your spouse. Share in the comment section how this is going. We want to hear about it.
- Pray for our podcast-we are praying for you.
- Don’t forget to subscribe.
- Share the podcast with two other people.
RESOURCES
Recreational Enjoyment Inventory from His Needs, Her Needs
Recreational Enjoyment Inventory
His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
His Needs, Her Needs on Amazon
Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas E. Rosenau
A Celebration of Sex on Amazon
NEXT EPISODE
Next we continue our discussion on Romance In Your Marriage.
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😍tingles!! Yasss... You are right on point guys!!
Wednesday Feb 20, 2019
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